Relationships and accumulating the right things, while knowing the difference between what things one should accumulate and in what order, is vital to the success of just about every relationship. For sure, there are more than just physical items that are needed to make a relationship go. In fact, most marriage experts say it’s the intangibles that matter far more than just the right furniture, for example.
For the guys, what this means is that one shouldn’t continue to think that one can just go out and buy that new 17 foot powerboat without consulting about the finances with the significant other in the relationship. The relationship road is strewn with the figurative dead bodies of men who have made such an unwise decision as buying a new boat without checking with the wife first, sad to say.
Another good example is when a man has had a pretty interesting life prior to entering into a long-term relationship. He may have been a hot guitarist in one of the better local bands. He may, in fact, really want that brand-new and very expensive left handed electric guitar (he’s a southpaw, after all) but if he’s going to go out and get it without consulting with his significant other first, he’s really making a big mistake.
This is why relationships seem to work best when two people can discuss all of the things that they’d like to accumulate. Another good example is deciding on interior decor and appointments. For the kitchen, it may be that the old oven is still extremely serviceable but a new GE oven is extremely desirable. However, figuring out the difference between wants and needs will be more important than ever before buying one.
Things really begin to get complicated when babies start entering into the mix that makes up a relationship. When it comes to children, every decision takes on a great deal of importance, right down to deciding the brand of stroller (Graco stroller?) that the little nipper will ride around in when he or she has a ‘baby’s day out’ adventure. If you are a guy, never make the decision about baby things without your relationship mate.
The thing about relationships is that all of them take work, though it also takes work to even get to the reason for why they require effort if they are to succeed over the long run. It’s great to have a lot of good stuff in a relationship but one that is founded upon purely material things will never last as long as one that is founded on the more intangible things like respect, love and appreciation.
In the end, relationships and accumulating the right things should be more about accumulating the right intangible things such as respect, admiration and even love. After those three things have been gathered it then becomes much easier to work on accumulating all of the good little toys that men and women seem to want to bring to any relationship, so remember what the aim is when going into a new pairing.
